Off the rebound.

Hah. Funny. A week after we stop talking and you have a girlfriend. Go goddamn fucking figure!

It's okay. I know she'll never love you like I did.

Frustration

How can you expect to
lead
another being
when you can't even
follow
your own words?

PostSecret Secrets from me

I miss you. I miss our relationship (for the most part).
But I don't think it would work out between us if you
became a touring musician.

I don't want to be with him... I wish I did.

My best friend told me this today:
'Even if you had sex with another guy, I don't think he'd break up with you.'
That scares me because it feels like there is no escape.

I hate SO much about you!

I keep all of my pictures from all of my ex boyfriends
not because I'm not over them,
but simply because I want to remember my life
as fully as I possibly can.

You're holding me back.

I slept with the boy you're in love with only because I loved him first.

Eerie timing

So after writing that last blog I sent it to Fayrn via MySpace message and lie here, surfing the space and watching VH1's Jump Start, which features new and popular music videos... a song I have never listened to by a female artist I have never heard of came on, and I found myself connecting DIRECTLY to this song's lyrics. Like, more than any other song I've heard yet. Here are the lyrics, and a video of it to watch/hear.

"Where I Stood" by Missy Higgins

I don't know what I've done
Or if I like what I've begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it's all or none

There were sounds in my head
LIttle voices whispering
That I should go and this should end
Oh and I found myself listening

'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood

See I thought love was black and white
That it was wrong or it was right
But you ain't leaving without a fight
And I think I am just as torn inside

'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood

And I won't be far from where you are if ever you should call
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do

'Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don't know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
'Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
Oh, she who dares to stand where I stood"

Bad News

I really, truly hate writing down realizations I come across (if they're unfortunate ones) because once you put them onto paper, or type them out, it becomes tangible... it becomes real and true. It's something you can be blamed for saying or writing, you can't be blamed for thinking many things so simply thinking something avoids that entire conflict. But..

I think Travis and I fight so much not because I want to..

But I think I resent this relationship.

I am lonely. Have no friends (besides Miss Faryn and I thank my lucky stars for her everyday!) because I have stopped hanging out with all of them since meeting Travis. And I can't drink or smoke or go places(raves!) or hang out with friends- all of these things I love to do... I can't and don't do anymore because of Travis.

In Psychologist speak, 'I'm "acting out" because I feel repressed by Travis and his unwillingness to do anything social.'

Wow. This sucks.

I do love him.
But what am I supposed to do?

Tell him and suffer the wrath of Travis?
Tell him, end it, and hope he sticks around?
Tell him, end it, and watch him not let this go/not take it seriously?

Or don't tell him, don't end it, and keep fighting day after day.

I don't know what's worse.


Good news! I figured out what's wrong.
Bad news! I have to make a big decision.

Reflecting love

There are certain songs that kind of defined the relationships I was with and who showed them to me and why I still listen to them from time to time:

'Wonderwall' by Oasis- Alex Harrington, because he covered it for me
'Wonderwall' cover by Cartel- Billy because he loved it because I did
'The Minstrel's Prayer' by Cartel- Alex, cause he loved Cartel
'I'm Yours' by Jason Mraz- Travis, he's the only one I thought of when this song came out
'Cannonball' by Damien Rice- Alex, he covered this one too.
'Atmosphere' by John Mayer- Billy, because it talks about LA and how he loves this girl but wants to see her and avoid her at the same time. That's got Billy written all over it.
Anything by The Fray- Alex. Because I think I fell in love with him to a song by The Fray.
Especially 'Look After You' by The Fray, Alex asked me out with this song. God I want to cry just thinking about it.

This is fun, I'll add more later.

Now that I am on this reflecting spree and am completely and utterly awake, I've always thought about the certain things that I miss and liked from my old relationships and old loves/crushes, and with each new one I continue to try and find the one person that does them all..

Randy Yard- Oh my god I had to go and add him in after I posted this blog once. Shame on me! Randy was the first guy I really liked in high school. We never went out and I'm not even sure how we met.. maybe it was through Ashley or something. I don't remember.. I just know that I really liked Randy frosh year, but we never got together because we just were both so busy with everything. But...I adore Randy. Even to this day I just think he's one of the sweetest, most kind-hearted guys I've ever known. We've always kept in touch, even if it was just a hello now and then or a short IM conversation.. but he's always just been there and was there to talk if I wanted, or to visit while he was in the area just to say hello. Over the summer things got really intimate between us and I really started to fall for him but he was leaving for college. Oh I even remember how he asked me out over the summer. I used my discount at work to buy him some shirts and he said that he would wear one of the shirts when he took me out to dinner. And I jokingly asked 'Are you asking me out on a date, Randy?' and he just looked at me, smiled, and said yes. And I told him yes back. So we went out on our first date in like, four years. Heh. El Paseo always makes me think of him, too. One night he called and said he wanted to hang out, so we decided just to walk up and down El Paseo and window-shop and talk. There was a point at which he grabbed me and hungged me, and we just stood there in each other's arms for so long that an old couple came up to us and said we'd been standing so still for so long they thought we were statues. Haha. It was sweet, such a good moment. Did I mention I think he's GORGEOUS?! Oh my god, a Justin Timberlake lookalike. But we had sex over the summer, and I just remember thinking 'God you've grown up!' He's a sweet, very intimate and lovable guy. He's always been there for me, and any girl who gets this bi-polar, vegan, Justin Timberlake lookalike, sweetie will be very lucky.

Zak- I don't really remember much of my relationship with him, to be honest.

Alex- He did the little things. Maybe because he was little. Haha just joking. Anyways, he was the picture-drawer, poem-writer, cute thing-txter, mix cd-maker.. I LOVEDDDD those things. Also, he always had certain songs playing for certain moods, or to show or tell me something at that point in time. That was so clever and I loved it everytime. We sent each other songs and lyrics and music videos all the time, and no one else has ever done that. He was really quite thoughtful, and when he was sweet...he was Cavalier. He also had SUCH good taste in music, I learned a new band and loved them all the time. He was active, too- he liked to go and do things just as much as he liked to chill at home. Oh, and he was kind of a nerd. SO CUTE! He loved anime and most things Japanese. His family loved me just as much as they loved him, too. To be honest there were a lot of things I loved about Alex... I mean he was my first love, but it was the big things that just didn't work out.

Daniel- Though I may never admit it to anyone at all, I had the biggest crush on Daniel since I got to know him soph year. He's loud and obnoxious and vulgar and for some reason I just loved it. It was hilarious and kind of a turn on. Oh and he was a total adrenaline junkie, which is kinda hot in it's own way too.

Billy- This boy is pretty much just a free spirit. That's what drew me away from Alex's controling ways and got me into his arms. He could always make me smile with his goofiness and smile, I couldn't help but fall heartfirst for this guy. He got me into KsE which I thank him for. But Billy had never been with anyone like me, and I don't know if he was ready to when we got together. But I liked that Billy was carefree, fun, and partied from time to time. He was really openminded, too. I mean, this boy watched and read anime and pokemon with me. Haha. He went to concerts with me, raves, whatever I wanted to do... he was there. But I think that's what got too overwhelming for me- his spirit was so free that I felt like his love for me would always come second to everything else that was important at the time.

Zac- I almost forgot Zac too! Shoot. I had such a fattie crush on this boy, but to be honest when it got down to being physical with him, I just couldn't dig it anymore. I really liked him because he'd been there for me through Alex, and then Billy. He'd always been such a good friend and would just hang out with me and watch movies and talk about life and draw pictures.. just a really good guy. A good friend. He was really sweet, too. I also liked that he was artsy- he was an aspiring photographer. I loved that.

Matt Musselwhite- Okay so Matt was never officially my boyfriend, but we were together enough you could have called it that. I fell for Matt's humor. It's so cheesy but it totally drew me in- he was sarcastic but not mean and he was always on par with making me laugh with words and rediculous stuff. He was always a pretty deep thinker and writer, which I love. After we stopped dating, he printed out some of the blogs that he had written for/about me, and I cried the first time I read them. They were lyrical, beautiful, thoughtful. He loved good music, too and went to concerts with me and was outgoing and confident in the music scene. It was tight. Oh not to mention he was on the radio, and told everyone that I was more attractive than Eva Longoria live on the radio. Hell yeah.

Matt uhhhh OTHER Matt- He was just hot and goofy and had a nice tan and GORGEOUS teeth and liked to drink beer. I fell for him fast but it was short-term.

Shane- Shane was intriguing because he was new in town, came right in and asked for an interview and I recognized him and gave him my number when he asked. And one day after talking to me, he sent me flowers to my work cause I told him I was having a bad night. He was BALLSY. I think I loved that- he's not the best looking guy, but when it comes to girls he's confident and will do a lot to show the girl he likes that it's her and only her. He was a chill guy, too and I loved the fact that I could just hang out and drink with him and his friends. He would smoke pot with me too, and that was a blast.

Travis- Well right away from the day I walked into Pavillions, I saw Travis and just thought he was super hot. I guess what drew me in about Travis (besides his looks) is that he is intelligent about the world he lives it, he's not really ignorant about the world around him. I love a smart guy. He's also really confident, which of course is a turn-on. But my first date with Travis was wonderful. We saw a good movie, and he paid for it. He's such a gentleman. But he LOOKS like a badass, which is so hot. I've never gone for a bro before. Always the musicians... but not this time, instead the music-listener. Travis is hot and confident and loving... he's thoughtful and a very hard worker which I really respect. He really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. but I don't know. There's just a lot missing from him, which makes me sad.


It's kind of funny how and why you fall for people. I never really thought about what I loved about each person I liked...but I really hope that one day I can find a guy that is all of these things thatI loved and more.

Unwillingly thoughtful

I really don't want to write the things I'm about to write down, because it will make them tangible and real instead of just 'how I felt at one point in time for a few moments.'

I honestly feel that Billy Hathaway and I will remain a part of each other's lives forever.
I don't want to be with him
ESPECIALLY if he becomes a musician (there will be no loyalty there)
But I just continue to feel like I'm either
a) gonna end up with him,
or b) he's just gonna be there always.

And Randy Yard came into my work today, and my heart could not stop pounding..
Just seeing his smile made me so happy and I couldn't stop smiling the rest of the night at work.
I don't know if it's just the fact that I think he's GORGEOUS,
or the fact that I'm just so fond of the guy...
But god damn I just adore him to no end.


Oh. I secretly wish I were single.
Like, I really do love Trav, a whole lot. But I just KNOW he's not the one, you know?
Faryn says that I shouldn't even be with him, and a lot of people say that..
But I don't know.. I feel like I NEED to be.
If we are only meant to be together for so long then so be it.
But I feel like I'm gonna be the girl to save his trust in humanity.

Powerful

Don't stop believing.


I won't if you won't.


Good. <3

Dear Travis.

You keep constant tabs on me.
You don't believe me when I tell you things.
You constantly question me.
You continuously doubt me.
You talk in a really disrespectful tone to me.

Look. Being with me is a privilege, not a right.

There is a fine line between me caring and me just not giving a shit anymore. You deal with things by flaring your temper. I deal with things by shutting down. I shut down when I'm put under great emotional stress for long or consistent periods of time. It's like going numb- the things you say and do will no longer get under my skin. Sounds pretty good, right? Wrong. With that thicker skin also comes my low tolerance for bullshit, and the quicker I will be to walk away from such things and/or people. Also, I become far less emotional as a whole; happy, sad, mad, you name it. A lot of those emotions I usually display freely instead just dissolve into that same comfortable silence I'll have due to the numbness.

You said you'd be happy to be the one I marry and am with forever. You said I mean more to you than anything in this world. I never want to read these things coming across in a text message ever again until you say this shit in person. Because honestly? I think you pull that stuff out when you're hitting the point of desperation- when you don't know what to say to make something better or just to make it go away.

You wanna say stuff like that? Then prove it to me: Don't ever talk disrespectfully to me again. Show a little more compassion. Don't keep constant tabs on me- you're worse than my parents ever were. Learn to trust me. Learn to be open with me. I'll help you if you want to try- that's why I'm here.

I understand you have trust issues. I understand you get depressed. I understand you don't have anyone else. I understand you 'just like to know what's going on.' I understand you think everyone's out to get you. I understand, I understand, I understand. Trust me, if I wasn't so understanding of all these things I would NOT be with you. But that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

I'm not a slut. I'm not a cheater. I'm not a liar. I'm not a bad person.
This stuff you should already know, but for some goddamn reason it's not getting across.

I don't know what else there is to say.

Flutterbies Butterflies

I think he gives me the butterflies.
They're small and few...


... but I'm pretty sure I can feel them.

I may never admit this to anyone but my dearest friends and my blog..

I do not like Panic! At The Disco...... however
I REALLY LOVE the imagery and the lyrics of this song.
It's the hopeless romantic in me. :]


'When The Day Met The Night' by P!ATD

" When the moon fell in love with the sun
All was golden in the sky
All was golden when the day met the night

When the sun found the moon
She was drinking tea in a garden
Under the green umbrella trees
In the middle of summer

When the moon found the sun
He looked like he was barely hanging on
But her eyes saved his life
In the middle of summer (summer)

In the middle of summer
All was golden in the sky
All was golden when the day met the night
Summer (summer)
All was golden in the sky
All was golden when the day met the night
Summer, summer, summer, summer
All was golden when the day met the night

So he said, "Would it be all right
If we just sat and talked for a little while
If in exchange for your time
I give you this smile?"

So she said, "That's okay
As long as you can make a promise
Not to break my little heart
Or leave me all alone in the summer."

Well he was just hanging around
Then he fell in love
And he didn't know how
But he couldn't get out
Just hanging around
Then he fell in love

In the middle of summer
All was golden in the sky
All was golden when the day met the night
Summer
All was golden in the sky
All was golden when the day met the night
Summer, summer, summer, summer
When the moon fell in love with the sun
All was golden in the sky
All was golden when the day met the night"


Shhhhh don't tell. :)

Future plans

I think I just found the poem
I want to give to someone
when I fall for 'the one'
(if there is such thing).

Oh this made my heart flutter!



ONLY YOU by RUMI

Only you
I choose among the entire world.
Is it fair of you
letting me be unhappy?

My heart is a pen in your hand.
It is all up to you
to write me happy or sad.

I see only what you reveal
and live as you say.
All my feelings have the color
you desire to paint.

From the beginning to the end,
no one but you.

Please make my future
better than the past.

When you hide I change
to a Godless person,
and when you appear,
I find my faith.

Don't expect to find
any more in me
than what you give.

Don't search for
hidden pockets because
I've shown you that
all I have is all you gave.

Darkest Night PostSecret

I long for someone
to write something like this
to me one day

<3>

Fuck it.

"Fuck it
I can't take it
You won't make it
I ain't yo bitch
You think that
I will step back
And watch that
Little mind trick"

okay so i can't think of anything else
to rhyme with that odd rhyme scheme..

BUT!

the point of it being that I've made a decision.

LAURA BLOMGREN WILL NOT
CHASE AFTER BOYS
WHO WILL NOT CHASE AFTER HER.

I'm sick of being the one putting in all of the effort and not getting any back.
If I'm trying to hang out with you...
DON'T JUST FUCKING SIT THERE AND IGNORE ME.
That's RUDE and ASSHOLE-ISH.
I'm not going to chase you down like you want me to.
That's for the birds and girls who can't stand to be alone without you.
I'm not like that.
Sure I like you. A little.
But the more and more you ignore me...
the less and less I like you
and the less and less want to spend time with you.

I am far better than the girls you normally go after.
You said so yourself--

"Oh Laura You're amaaaaazing."
"You're so drop dead gorgeous"
"I'm gonna miss you"

BULLSHIT!
WASN'T IT? YOU LITTLE PIECE OF IT!

COME BACK WHEN YOU'RE READY
TO TELL ME THE TRUTH.

Enola

I have never felt so completely alone in my life.

This feeling is crushing me.
Eating me up, swallowing me whole.

No one will answer to my subtle cries of despair.
I don't want to seem desperate...
But I am desperate for their compassion.

I just want to feel like people enjoy me
and wantto be around me,
and be there for me.

The good, the bad, and the sickly.

My motor is running on four and a half hours of sleep.
And I cannot sleep.
My tonsils feel like they're steadily inflating inside my throat,
Crushing the ability to swallow, laugh, or speak.
Like cutting me off from all verbal communication.

So. There are three guys I am currently talking to:

1) Greens aka Sweettalker aka Billy Gene:
I spent a good hour of the night whispering on the phone
to a guy I made out with at the Electric Daisy Carnival,
dubbed 'Greens' aka Billy Gene.
He says he falls fast and hard, like a brick off a building.
And I believe him: he already wants to come down here
and give me money to get there and back just to spend time with me.
He's had a pretty fascinating life so far.. he told me just about all of it tonight
while I was helping him down from his high.


2) Dimitri aka the Greek God:
I met this smooth operator at work one day. He walked in and my jaw almost hit the floor!
This boy is fiiiiiine. I had to talk to him, help him, do something!
So I did, I helped him for a solid fifteen minutes,
which is a relatively long time to handle one customer's needs..
When Claudia started yelling for me which her squeaky voice,
he asked "Does she need you? Cause I can wait.."
and I shook my head and said, "No, you're a customer. I've got to help you."
So he smiled, and said "Oh. So does that mean that if
I asked foryour number... you'd have to give it to me?"
I was shocked!
This gorgeous guy I'd been helping for the past 15 mins
actually asked for my number?!
So I gave it to him and since we've been on one date.
And all I can think about is his hot body, gorgeous eyes, sense of humor....
and his favorite book. THE OUTSIDERS. <3
Oh, note to self: potential lack of self-esteem with this one?
Everytime I compliment him, he can't take it. Note.

And last, but definitely not least...

3) Matty G. aka Pac Matt:
This boy and I hit it off fromt he start. I had heard that PacSun had hired two new people,
and when Fred introduced me to Matt
he seemed like the all American Beach Boy.
Shaggy brown hair, an awesome tan, and an AMAZING smile.
What's more? I GOT TO TRAIN THIS STUDMUFFIN!
So we hit it off, same sense of humor, same jokes.
And we had worked together only three times after,
and he asked for my number.
He took me out to dinner, and I really had the best date ever.
A real southern gentleman. :] And to thank him for it I gave him
the best head of his life. ;D Awww and he's kind of a virgin!
I mean he could get any girl he wants but
he's only had a couple of gfs and both cheated on him.
Sadly, I'm trying not to get too attatched because
he's leaving in August to go back to school in TN....
but Rocki says he thinks I'm amazing.
I mean, he's told me this too... but c'mon me? Amazing?
Idk... and now lately he never seems to want to talk
or hang out or anything... I don't know why
because he was infatuated with me for a good week or so...
Oh well. We'll see what happens. :]

I've got a minor case of tonsillitis so I'm going back to bed.

...this is the longest blog I've had for awhile.


Oh. PS to self. EDC WAS THE SHIT!!

A Little Bit Bitter

Go ahead.
Go get on your best friend's ex-girlfriend.
Yeah, it hurts a little.
Just a little sting.
Why?
CAUSE I FUCKING KNEW IT.
I TOLD YOU I DID.
AND YOU DENIED IT.
YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE.
So go ahead!
She'll never treat you like I did.
She'll never treat you like I did.

Life Update

I broke up with Billy on the night of Battle of the Bands.
I didn't even really cry. I felt and still feel so relieved, even though he's talking shit and writing blogs about how hard this is for him. Secretly, this wasn't hard for me at all. However, the relationship itself was hard for me. So hard. I had to deal with a lot of shit.

Now there's Matt. I think I made the mistake of having sex with him too soon...
But I do really care about him. I spend all of my free time with him, like a boyfriend. He treats me right, like a girlfriend. We go on dates, like we're together. My parents like him, so far my friends like him... I don't know what could go wrong. He said he understood that I'm just not ready to be in a relationship yet...and he STILL likes to treat me as good as he does. He's an amazing being and I actually think I might love him. But he already says he's in love with me, and you know how big that is for me.. And now I'm worried I am going to feel trapped in a relationship. Not just with him, but with anyone.

I'm not sure if I would feel trapped by him, or by anyone for that matter.

I've been stressing out about this just as much as I've been stressing about finals. :(

Recent secrets

Storming

I yearn for simplicity;
Complexity is what I get instead.

I've got an emotional heart,
Paired with a logical head.